Ever heard the the sayings "Calling someone ugly doesn't make you any prettier?" Or "Making fun of someone's fat doesn't make you any skinnier?" Or "Saying someone's stupid, doesn't make you any smarter?"
Well, they're true but why does it keep perpetuating in our society in both men and women and therefore influencing our future generations the same unnecessary mental/emotional/verbal harm.
To me, when I hear someone ridiculing others especially on a consistent basis, it screams INSECURITY to me. Maybe they had others belittle them, or they are so scared someone noticing their flaws, they have to immediately point out someone else's OR their having a power struggle of some sort and that's one way to gain some feeling of superiority in their mind. Really there's quite a plethora of reasons.
WHAT EVERGY YOU SEND TO OTHERS, YOU FEEL THAT MUCH MORE OF AND IT OPENS THE DOOR FOR IT TO COME BACK TO YOU IN SOME SHAPE OR FORM~POSSIBLY WHEN YOU LEAST EXPECT IT!
The return might be completely different in context but the same type of energy is present. What ever vibration of energy too, positive or negative. That's up to you to choose.
You always have a choice on whether or not to agree what someone's opinion is of you. I will say, that if you DO agree with any negative comment, that may mean that you are in some, even on a subconscious level, agreement with them, is what I've learned. That can start to be cleared out of your being by your reaction. There's plenty of other ways to let go of unhealthy beliefs too. Use what works for you the best and then see if there are other ways
Here's what to do: Nothing. The best reaction is non-action. If you feel, you can't just NOT say anything than have it be a brief "I don't agree" (unless you think some one is getting upset to the point of physical violence, then it's best to get out of there as soon as possible) Lift up your head, pull your shoulders back, take a deep breath and walk away, hang up the phone or not reply to a text/email. That way the circle of low-vibrating energy can get squashed. Then It doesn't come back to you. Keep in mind, some people will do absolutely ANYTHING for ANY kind of attention, nice or not.
I know that it's not always because of what's said but the fact that someone close to you wanted to intentionally hurt your feelings. Still, better to not react but take action and leave it alone till emotions are rested and some time to breath has been apparent.
If you find yourself obsessing about happened then focus on something else that brings you joy. Getting outside and active is one of my favorite things to do to clear my mind. Too much focus/energy towards another can send an energetic cord to them further allowing negative attachment and disallowing forgiveness.
I once, not too long ago, read a social media post and one girl put her picture up next to another girl that had a different body type and the girl that posted it was saying something along the lines of how SHE is natural and therefore better than the one that (she claimed) had possibly plastic surgery and that the one that had surgery was going to deflate and not be healthy later...
I sat with it and wondered why someone would put that up and why she felt the need to justify why she had the body she had. Look, I understand if people want to promote loving the skin your in and accepting the way you are wherever you're at but there is NEVER a good reason to body shame someone. No one needs to justify how they look. And putting someone down for what others or you may seem fake is NEVER the answer. I don't understand the obsession of needing to know if someone had their lips or any other body part altered or not. Focus on you being the best you and that's going to get you a heck of a lot further in life than spending your precious energy on things that ultimately are no one else business but that individuals. Besides, what if someone that got surgery or fillers loves how they looked before but wanted to try something else out.. a new look?
Lifting others up not only shows confidence in yourself but also makes you feel good because you're spreading Love not Hate.
There are little ones, teenagers and other impressionable people watching your example.
They can either see you be a Bully or Kind. Insecurely putting others down with a Lack mentality OR They can see you Confidently and genuinely lifting others up with a with a Prosperity consciousness. There's enough to go around with out competing. Believe that you ARE enough~you are
HONOR yourself enough to know the difference at any given chance make that choice~
A mini practice to do everyday is apply oil or organic lotion to your body and while rubbing it in, tell your body how grateful you are for it and look into the mirror, into your eyes and thank yourself for being you. The more you love and appreciate yourself, you'll naturally make decisions more based in harmony and strength
Songs: "I'm Fine" by Mary J. Blige
"Scars to your Beautiful" by Alessia Cara