~ Addictions & Attachments

There are many reasons addictions take form in the first place but also the same reason it takes form is not always the same reason it stays in place, sometimes for several years or even a lifetime for some. 
To me, aside from the born physical addictions ~ example if a baby is born to a Crack addicted mother, then that baby has a chance of being addicted to the drug Crack as well ~ the other reasons mainly boil down to relief. Relief from Self, What is perceive as "Life", Pain~Physical/Emotional or Psychological, feeling weak, and many other various reasons~still ending up at being relief from something.
Below, are several forms of addictions that I don't see as readily spoken about, aside the more public ones sex, food, drugs (pharmaceutical or recreational) or alcohol. 

 Dramas~addiction to energy from others individually or groups
Is incredibly addicting for a lot of the population around the planet. I see this being highly associated with the news, gossip columns, social media, magazines, music, theater or politics.  This is where people get hooked from the relief that their own lives are better than that which they see, read or listen about. Constantly judging or getting upset by others lives to feed their own ego, almost like a mental endorphin boost, they feel more alive and satisfied in their own life. These individuals to me, are usually the ones waiting for someone to say something or post something, for example social media ( there's other avenues but for time's sake...) and they will take energy and time out of their day to put horrible nasty comments that are not even some times remotely relevant to what was said, but wanted to pick someone apart through their own typed words~classic case of "Power Trip" They feel, that if they put someone down, then they will have a sense of being more powerful.
The book 'The Celestine Prophecy' by James Redfield, which I highly recommend all that read my blogs, read that book~so good and enlightening, it speaks about the different types of 'Control Dramas' people have that stem from childhood. The 4 types that most have, described in the book are, The Interrogator, The Aloof, The Poor Me/Victim, or The Intimidator.  It's fascinating to read about those as I see it everywhere and also in the book is ways of solution.  The one not mentioned in the book that I also notice is The Pleaser.  The pleaser, as it's not mentioned in the book, to me is a person that lives their life but loves the feeling of pleasing others to get energy from others through  gratitude or the feeling of acceptance (positive reinforcement). The ones in the book as well, are different ways to get energy from others.  To feel powerful, to gain control in some sense.
This leads into addiction to people:
This can happen in family, romantic partners, co-workers, or even to groups of people.  For example in a family a mother may be addicted to her son in a sense that she always wants control of how his life is lived, of his happenings~this would give relief in the sense of keeping control or power through always checking in, possibly putting guilt trips if he doesn't... whatever her desire is for him so she can get satisfaction. Another example would be romantic relationship~addicted to getting energy from each other for happiness.  This can become toxic as no one can keep up with "making" someone else happy. That is WAY too much pressure for one person.  The inner happiness MUST come from the self first and whatever happiness that is shared with others can be another version of happiness but not the sole reason someone to be happy. This is one major reason relationships don't last.  

Attachments: As described above the energy that is attempted to be taken from others in order to gain energy or another words relief, can send energetic cords to the other person and throw the chakras off and kilter with  both persons. For example: If person A: is constantly waiting for person B: to call, show up, make plans, ..basically do what they want them to do so they can be happy and if not, then possibly angry at person B, then person A: sends out their Power center (solar plexus) energy in a energetic (etheric) cord to person B, now draining person A, of their sense of Empowerment, confidence, sense of self worth. When one chakra or a few go out of whack, then the others compensate. So if the power center starts draining then possibly the heart chakra will start being "under active" leading to co-dependency and losing sense of identity.
Here's a website that you can look at and study. Even if you don't believe that people have chakras, then see and use it as a behavior learning tool.  It's clear and obvious that all humans have thoughts, feelings, emotions, patterns and behaviors.

http://www.oneworldhealing.net/chakra-healing/

Drug Addiction:
Either recreational drugs or pharmaceutical drugs~could be used for the same reasons. It's just one is legal and the other isn't. They are relief from and over-active life (stress) or under-active life (wanting a boost) I'll use alcohol, nicotine and caffeine as they are drugs as well just in a legal sense. It's all relief from self in some form but this time it's not to gain energy from others but either to gain it from a drug or to escape life, giving their energy to the power of the drug (co dependency). 

Sex addiction:
This could also be used in the gaining energy from others section but this one has little more to it since there are fluids being exchanged and very close energy connection.  When there are fluids from one person to another, they carry on the energy of the each other. This can result in feeling the other persons feelings that much more and if one person has grown a strong attachment to the other, than cords are built.  This is especially harmful for those that have multiple partners with out cleansing out their energy field.  Chakras not only get blocked but life, finances, sense of power etc all can be affected.  Also if one person is using the other for sex then unfortunately negative karma can come back to them, not necessarily in the form of that person being used but in another form. It doesn't matter what the other persons intention is, the energy sent out will on some level, in some way, come back.  Always good to check motivations when it comes to others.  Using people isn't necessary.

Work addiction: 
Work is great and if you can find a job that is something that is truly enjoyable. even better. It's when work is pretty much ruling your life and there's not much for a variety of healthy balanced activities and pastimes. If the work is to constantly gain because what you have is never enough or your sense of value comes from a certain dollar amount, then can be tough to get a sense of true satisfaction in life. Besides, think of it, it there are other things to enjoy in life, it can make work that much more fun or can possibly get other ideas on how to make work more productive and also trying new things can be a type of fun you never knew you'd like till you took some time to do it.
Addiction to things staying the same:
This usually stems from fear of change that everyday is almost a repeat or every week is repeat. Addicted to things staying the same can keep someone in a job they hate, in a harmful  relationship, eating the same food being appalled at the thought of trying something new..
Mainly I'm talking about the extreme but over loyalty to something that is not healthy can take a hit on the feeling of aliveness in life.

There are other types of addiction but now you have a sense of a few with some possibilities of how and why formed, from another perspective. There are many ways the brain helps to convince the self it is safe and justified to keep addictions alive and well, regardless of the deterioration  of the wholeness of self. 

Here's one thing to do everyday: is fill up with the Energy of Source aka Love.
I've mentioned different ways to gain energy by going in nature too but this one is one that can be done everyday no matter what addiction that anyone may have. 
Sit and imagine a shimmery light with all colors in it and see it filing up your heart space, then filling up the room your in, then the country, then the world then the Universe all the while breathing deep. Connect a root from the base of the spine to the center of the earth and a cord from the top of your head connecting to the energy of Love so that you can keep filling up through out the day, this energy of Love.  The intention is for you to feel "Whole" on your own. Helping to alleviate the addiction to any  person, place or thing.

Also the chakra link I shared above has a ton of useful techniques that can balance and harmonize many aspects of life.

With appreciation and love~
​M