Where ever you're at with the two options in any given scenario~know that you always will have a choice~forever and ever Amen...
First you got to think of your truest motive in anything and everything you think/say and DO. Really be able to critically evaluate yourself with out judgement. Judgement in the sense that you automatically would feel shame if you called it (thought/word/action) out for being a certain way. If you find yourself thinking someone else was to blame for whatever your choices made are~ then might find it pretty justifiable to have such thoughts/feelings that lead to the behavior (decision made)~completely neglecting that you are the the sole reason for EVERY SINGLE CHOICE made~every time~as an adult.
The beauty about critically thinking about self motives and not blaming someone else for whatever~takes your POWER of choice BACK. Even when it comes to not being able to make something happen with out someone else's say-so, ACT as though it's perfect that way and make other choices that help your sense of ease that much more apparent~maybe work on another project or ..hell bake a pie! whatever just find something enjoyable to do as you allow whatever needs to take place~take place.
When you can truly look at this, and take your power of choice into consideration~then you can start to apply whether or not it's fear based or love based.
Fear based decisions are going to have a lot to do with Control/ Worthlessness/ Competition or Greed (lackmentality)/ Victim hood/ Anger/ Revenge/ Unforgiveness/ not Trusting or having Faith/ Resentment
For example if you are trying to manifest a significant amount of money~GREAT go for it! Money is very helpful for all kinds of things~there's always an abundance of it. Be open to receiving all that you can! Money's never the enemy ~people's CHOICES make them have Karma in one way or another.
If you are wanting a shit-ton of money to be "better" than your neighbor, and to gain a certain type of social status or to have more "toys" than your neighbor~ than that is FEAR based with the sense of having strong feelings of not being worthy enough just as you are..with out having all the "stuff" to show for it and "One Up" someone at the same time..which is also a lack mentality that if you don't hurry up and get "more" than maybe your neighbor will get it first and you will feel bad if that was your motive~it ends up being a never ending shit show because now you've developed a loop of external circumstances for validation and even if you DO get the money you desired~ it may be pretty tough to keep it if there are such issues with worthiness or lack.
It's perfectly find to have material things and lots of them if that is your interest, just don't have them to keep you happy. External things can always be taken from you whether it be a car~person~job~ or whatever because at the end of the day you have you and YOU can acquire the external again but it's going to be harder if your joy is constantly contingent upon something outside of you. Even relationships family/lover/friend~they always have the choice to leave or something happens and they can't be there for you in the way you'd hoped.
If you are there for yourself
A. it takes the pressure off some one else's shoulders to provide you happiness B. Being "enough" for yourself generally automatically attracts the people/places and things for your highest good, into your physical reality for your current 'life chapter'. On any given day you have the "unseen" with you (angels, spirit guides, higher self, Spirit ...if you choose to believe in them) but in the physical? ~you're really all you have for sure. Try to see that as an empowering idea.
A LOVE based decision is going to have the essence of Wholeness/ Forgiveness/ Joy/ Fulfillment Generousity (prosperity mentality ~there's more than enough) Harmony/ Calm & Grounded demeanor/ Feeling safe/ Freedom/ Worthiness/ Giving and Receiving is in fair balance /Gratefulness
For example if you are making a decision based off of love than immediately your decision is going to feel calmer~truer to your authentic nature. Let's say you are deciding to give a certain amount of time or money to a specific charity, do it because you are passionate about whatever you're donating to, to see it prosper. Not because you feel guilty. That's why it's important to pick one that is close to your heart~ arts or animals or whatever just as long as the energy towards it is somewhat positive~ I believe that will help the energy of the charity as well. Give because there is enough (prosperity mindset) not so much that you can't pay your bills etc but because you know you have enough to give at least some. That generosity shows the universe/ and you that you are prosperous~there fore can be open to receiving more prosperity as well.
Or a love based decision could be NOT to do something~honoring yourself mind/body and soul to stay home if you are feeling drained instead of going out.
Also: consider taking a minute to see where you're at vibrationally before giving encouragement or listening to someone else's encouragement or declarations. When someone has just gotten hurt in anyway by someone~ might not want to take their advice until they are in a place where they have had some time to heal.
For example: One of your friends got cheated on and now she/he says women/men can't be trusted or Hey you better check your lovers phone or pay attention to these signs because that could mean they are cheating!
They might really be trying to help you~but it's a fear based help not from a loving place. Now let's say you buy into it and start being paranoid your going to be cheated on and now may end up sabotaging a perfectly fine and faithful connection. Now having that been said: think about all the stuff you may have been told by your parents growing up: Such as "life's hard" "you're going to have to struggle if you want to make it in this world" or whatever else pops up in your mind reading this. Once again, yes they may be trying to help you by Fearing you into something because that's what they went through but does NOT mean it has to be your "story" There are still parents arranging marriages for their children making sure they have the right "make-up" right religion, color of skin, poise, has a certain level of education etc. HOWEVER that is definitely based in fear and external circumstances ~ not love, not to mention very controlling. Having true love/passion/zest/ authentic connection is so key. Yes some of the other stuff helps but is not the sole reason. So before giving advice on who to marry~maybe keep it light. People need freedom in that choice. Encouraging people to love, respect and honor themselves first will help them to know themselves more and can feel more confident in the partner they choose. People think they know what's best for others and sometimes they are right and sometimes not~ this is why it's important to grow self trust and base LOVING decisions from that place above all
Self LOVE is always a must to be able to recognize where you're basing any decision because if you love yourself then you automatically are of the higher vibrations and can keep grounded and balanced easier.
Take time to collect yourself everyday~breath, drink plenty of water, feel being in your body, ground yourself (imagine a grounding cord from the base of your spine to the center of the earth and wrap that cord around the core of earth) Eat plenty of healthy foods, get outside if you can~fresh air is the best!
Take me as I am by Mary J Blige
Closer to my Dreams by Goapele
With love and appreciation