No one can feel like shit enough, to go back and fix a fuck up. Never gonna happen~

Not only does it never do any good to hold onto your own regrets, failures, things you think you should/should't have said or did, it equally is unnecessary to hold others in that same place.
Here's why: In the case of regret towards self. When you are mournful about all the things you have regret for in the past, it seriously stunts growth or forward movement. For example, if you have made a mistake with a business deal and lossed money or clients and you are angry with yourself and now you've become an expert of running it in your head over and over again wishing you could turn back time. OR You've made a perceived mistake and now you're minds obsessed with all the things you WOULD have done different. Here's the crappy deal, every time you are running it over in your mind and feeling that with your body, you are creating a belief, that you are scared of messing up again, in your mind that eventually turns from conscious to subconscious. Since it's subconscious thoughts/vibrations that ultimately guide thoughts, words and actions~ that leaves you with a greater possibility of messing up again. Making decisions that may not be the best option, happens more when you keep holding onto a certain low vibrating emotion (failure, guilt, shame) during the decision making process. As you are feeling bad for whatever happened you also add worthlessness or powerlessness of self, which contributes to not such a great attraction point for best case scenarios in several areas of life, not just the regretted situation.

What happens if you are feeling terrible about something involving another person and now your relationship is strained. By holding onto that guilt or shame, you may possibly be sending them an energetic cord with that same vibration. That's more on the physics side of it however still true and very possible if they are resonating with it. So when they think of the incident or whatever happened associated with you (if a cord of energetic attachment has been accomplished in being hooked into their energy field), it vibrationally holds them more than likely (not always) NOT to be able to move forward as well as possibly have a harder time letting it go even if they already have wanted to forgive it and move on. It depends on where they are at vibrationally and what lesson THEY may be getting from it. 
Here's what's happening when it's you that is having a hard time letting OTHERS off the wheel of regret (having a hard time forgiving).  For one, if you keep wanting others to feel bad for what was said or done you're most likely going to attract in some way a situation that is that same vibration but it's YOU that's on the other side. Ask yourself what is it that you really are getting out of not forgiving. Does it put you in a place of superiority by comparing yourself? Does it make anything you did before in any given "mess up" some how feel better? Are you basing not letting it go by what you were taught or you have some idea that you are protecting yourself? Does it feed a part of you that feels like a victim therefore others can dote attention on you if you keep telling the story to whomever will listen? That right there will continue to keep your vibes low, contributing to more and more space between you and what positive situations/opportunities that you DO wish to occur. It's great to release what it is that's bothering you but in healthy ways. (I've mentioned many in previous posts) Talk about whatever happened but to only one or two people you trust and that are open to listening but truly consider your motive first and do your best to talk about it for advice towards resolve or could join a support group to get different ideas on a resolution.  This is what it means when some one says that by not forgiving others, you only hurt yourself. That goes for forgiving yourself too.  If it's something that is very traumatic for you, do this in layers, listen to your body as to what is safe for you to release each time. I get it, some things run deep. Pace yourself but KEEP MOVING FORWARD.
What's more? Holding onto emotions such as unforgiveness, rage, anger, resentment, regret, etc. can SERIOUSLY affect your physical health. Not letting things go, can lead to ulcers, digestion issues, acne, rashes, heart problems, joint aches and many more.
Here's a few authors to look up to see more of the association of the body and emotions 
Louise Hay
Evette Rose
Nick Breau


Here's a mini practice: For both sides of what was described above

Get a piece of paper
Write down what the pros and cons are about the situation
What did you learn (to be more compassionate, another approach etc)
What would you like to accomplish now that it's done and no turning back

NOW
Send love to the situation (what ever it is) close your eyes, get grounded, imagine cords of attachment being cut ( I see them as electric looking string of light) call your energy back to you and give back the others (if another's involved) and then imagine Pink/Green/Gold light filling the situation (have a picture in mind) and then see yourself filled with love adding gratitude for whatever lesson and forgiveness towards self and others~ take one deep breath ~and be done with it. 
​Think about it, if your attraction point is what energy, positive or negative, is being the most focused on, then if you focus on the regret/worthlessness/fear etc. instead of forgiveness and or what it IS that your heart desires, then it's going to make it a hell of a lot harder to receive the desires. To me this makes sense and why I am not afraid to address the deeper topics. In order to actually see what it is that's beneath the surface of either  motives or emotions (whatever they may be) or what's true beliefs are holding back our hearts desires (love, peace, prosperity, freedom in those feelings many forms) then can see where you are truly at on your path of  fulfilling purpose.

THIS IS THE MIGHTY POWER OF FORGIVENESS IN ALL OF IT'S GLORY AND NOW YOU SEE IT LOGICALLY APPLIED.

Someone said that I was like a Spiritual Doula, bringing the seemingly Esoteric/Etheric and harmonizing the quotes/sayings with the Body/Mind so it makes actual sense to apply the Sayings that seem out of true cognition~To me it seems like that's a good way to describe my approach, it's my intention anyway. On my way to doing my best to heal myself from traumas I found these books that were great but really had a tough time actualizing it into real life and applying it when possible~everyday. So I decided to try to help others with that as well using what I've learned either from my own experiences or others that have relayed their own experience. I'm not afraid to go deep any more and wish to show others it's not so scary too.
​Take what resonate always and come back to this later and read again. It's amazing what will make sense when read  a second or third time.

This all will also help you take your power back. By not allowing others to dictate how you operate and being as emotionally independent as possible, it adds to self EMPOWERMENT. This is what it means when Spiritual advisors, gurus etc mean when they say "Don't give your power away" My interpretation anyway~

Song: Bonobo- The Keeper ft. Andrey Triana (Banks Remix)

Good one to dance and get into flow. Shake off the energetic shit and get into your shimmy Love! You're worth it!
With love and appreciation
​~M